You Do Not Have, For You Do Not Ask
Throughout my life I fell that I have been rewarded by being kind but bold enough to ask for what I would like.
For instance, the recent snow canceled our flights and put us a day late getting to our hotel. Our hotel reservations where expressly “non-cancellable” and “non-refundable.” However, by gently seeking the refund anyway, it was approved for our delayed arrival.
In a legal case involving a work-related injury, I had a letter from the other attorney stating the maximum that they would ever pay. The only way that would be increased is in the unlikely event that one of the two treating doctors changed their final rating.
Again, it is rare for a workers compensation doctor to change his rating, but I both of them asked anyway. One of them did not change it, but the other did. The increased rating led to a settlement well in excess of the “maximum” that was named earlier.
How often would people work with us if we kindly but firmly asked for what we would like? The Bible reminds us “we have not for we ask not.”
This principle also applies to our marriages and other relationships.
In the church or workplace, how many times are we doing things just because “They have always been done that way.” It is good to ask occasionally “Does this help us meet our goals?”
For instance, what a husband and a wife each feel is “romantic” virtually never match up. That is why it is so important to let your spouse know what you need and not have them just guess.
The best illustration of not knowing how to help because we never even asked is an old story about a couple coming home late from their 50th anniversary party. He offers to make sandwiches and gives her the one made with the heelpiece from the end of the loaf. She explodes, “For fifty long years you have given me the heel piece and I am sick of it!” He looks saddened, and softly says, “But that is my favorite piece.”