Thursday, September 16, 2010

You Do Not Have, For You Do Not Ask


You Do Not Have, For You Do Not Ask

In a legal case involving a work-related injury, I had a letter from the other attorney stating the “maximum” that they would ever pay. The only way that would be increased is in the unlikely event that one of the two treating doctors changed their final rating.
Again, it is rare for a workers compensation doctor to change his rating, but asked both of them asked anyway. One of them did not change it, but the other did. The increased rating led to a settlement well in excess of the “maximum” that was named earlier.
How often would people work with us if we kindly but firmly asked for what we would like? The Bible reminds us “we have not for we ask not.”
This principle also applies to our marriages and other relationships.
In the church or workplace, how many times are we doing things just because “They have always been done that way.”
For instance, what a husband and a wife each feel is “romantic” virtually never match up. That is why it is so important to let your spouse know what you need and not have them just guess.
The best illustration is an old story about a couple coming home late from their 50th anniversary party. Fifty years of raising kids, keeping house and making snacks. He offers to make sandwiches. He lovingly gives her the one made with the heelpiece from the end of the loaf.
She explodes, “For fifty long years you have given me the heel piece of bread and I am just sick of it!”
He looks saddened, and softly says, “But that has always been my favorite piece.”
Communicate, and never give up! We have not for we ask not.
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